Happy New Year everyone!

It’s been 4 long years since I took a break from my blog. I guess there are 2 main reasons, work obviously and the diminishing trend of writing a blog – I thought to myself, if nobody’s reading, why write? but I guess I forgot WHY I chose to write a blog in the first place; a place where I can document my memories and to practice writing because believe it or not, I’m not great at essays! work has been my life for the past few years, and so much had happened.

SO, what happened in these 4 years? well, the pandemic sort of ended 2.5 years ago (so technically 1.5 years got discounted) where we could finally start travelling in HK, and shortly before was when I started at a new company. the working bits is not as interesting but I have a few readers wondering where I have been and why am I not even updating my facebook. not to mention that my instagram account is now private.

okay, here’s a brief summary of what had happened:
1. nothing really interesting happened between 2021 – 2022; except I started in a new company mid 2022 (yay) – that means new responsibilities, a lot to learn, and having lesser time for myself. failed level 3 of CFA (my excuse will be that I had no brain capacity to learn on the job and study after hours, but an excuse is an excuse), and figured out its a waste of time for me since I no longer take care of the buyside clients so.. that’ll be it for now. I might revisit it sometime later, but I highly doubt so.
2. in 2023, I was moved to a travelling team where my clients are now Korean clients, which explains why I am mostly in Korea now. it’s been my dream to be able to be back in Seoul; after I left, I’d always longed to be back. something about the convenience, food and language always drew me back. being in the Korean team had been nerve wrecking for me at first as I had left Korea for over 6 years and my Koreans uh.. really rusty. It took me 6 months to be comfortable with presenting in Korean again but that being said, it’s still not as good as my student days here.. probably because I don’t actually use Korean 24/7 nor have to write essays/thesis in the language.
3. I ended my previous relationship in 2023, after 8 long years, realizing the differences in life goals and that I’m not going to and will not be married to that person. it was still 8 happy years but my only regret is that I let it drag out for so long (I blame the pandemic, time literally stopped, but because I wasn’t alone, it wasn’t as hard too..) because in a blink of an eye, I am 30 and my biological clock is ticking. sometimes admitting to the truth is better than living in denial is what I have learned. denial that circumstances will change, but deep down I know that it won’t. letting go is no easy feat, especially with so many years of “investment” into a person, you’d want to believe you made the right bet; what we call the sunk cost fallacy in finance.
4. with the full intention of having a family, I was introduced via my first and last sogaeting (friend playing cupid/really means a friend setting up a blind date) to my now husband shortly after being in the Korean team. it was funny because I told my friend I wasn’t ready but she basically forced me to it; and it was the same for my husband. I guess you know the one when you meet them because.. we hadn’t stopped seeing each other almost every day since then!
5. got married in mid 2024 and by the very end of 2024, we welcomed our beautiful baby boy whose nickname is “little bean.” for those who are upset thinking I did not invite them to my wedding, I hadn’t had one. we were in the midst of planning for the wedding but little bean came along (after the constant “I want a baby dragon” jokes), so we just signed papers and decided to push the ceremony to later after much considering to minimise stress during the pregnancy. to when? I don’t know yet.. but hopefully we’ll have little bean be the flower boy!
6. and now in 2025, I’m adjusting my life to being a new mom to my now 2 month old newborn. to be honest, I feel way busier now than ever. but thanks to my baby being up all day yesterday and sleeping all day today. here’s an update! the mom life is really really tiring (feed, burp, change diaper, pat to sleep, repeat every 2-3 hours. during growth spurt, feeds almost every hour = no sleep lol)
7. you might be wondering why I privatized my ig after having it public for over 10 years or so. the main reason is because believe it or not there are more creepers in Korea than anywhere else. with the abundance of clients here and random violating messages, I realized the way to end the creepiness once and for all is to go private. but if you’re a normal person whom requests to follow me, I’ll approve you!

baby’s gonna need to feed soon hence this will be it for now. and I lost my card reader so no pictures >< but hopefully I’ll have time to post some pictures soon!

Happy New Year again!

I would like to state that this is based on my own personal experience and what worked for me may not work for you.

I guess this is the first time for me to write this publicly on my blog, but I think that it’s about time. I’ve always been in long distance relationships. some people say that I constantly fall into a long distance relationship because I have problems settling, but I think differently. I tried to look for someone I like who lived around me, but they never seem to work out. so..

Continue reading “how to make a long distance relationship work” →

okay if you don’t already know. there’s something called MERS (Middle East Respiratory Syndrome) which is a Corona Virus (same family with the normal flu and SARS) that’s driving the country crazy.

well not literally.

but quite. Continue reading “MERS & scandals.” →