hi. I would like to first tell you that this does not apply to all. but a portion of them. and it is just my own culture shock on it.
lets start with being careful on going out with a Korean guy one on one. my Korean friends told me that it is UNUSUAL for people who have no interest in each other here to go out one on one. I don’t understand much but I hang out with my guy friends who I am very sure that I have no interest in and vice versa a lot.
it’s no doubt that this country is filled with tradition and manners. but it does NOT mean that they are not open. in fact, they’ve adapted to the open mind set of the American society and turned it into what everyone do (in a bad way) because they think it’s cool. which will just normally end up to one thing.. that these Korean guys are only nice to you because they want “IT”. they do not take things slowly, play the game of courting but instead jump right into it. I don’t play games but for me, I guess dating a person I just got to know is pretty disgusting.
well, if you’re here for a while. just keep in mind. if a Korean guy is nice to you. they probably don’t JUST WANNA BE FRIENDS.
and you should really get to know them well. unless you are okay with dating an ugly man whom should just be fine. most importantly, you should know how they do “introduce-dating” as in, a group of guys whom one of them know a girl from this other group of single girls as well and they would set up a meeting. and it’s called sogaeting. sogae from “introducing” and ting from “dating”. on these events, if you didn’t meet someone you like, it’s okay to just walk away. but if you did……….. and he feels the same for you. he’d probably bring you to a love motel before you even realize. ON THE SAME DAY. this had happened to some foreign student as well.
next, in clubs. ALWAYS GO WITH MALE FRIENDS. you think just going with a girlfriend is fine? well, unless you’re rich/capable enough to get into the VIP zones of a quite prestigious club. if not? you’d get touched everywhere you go (but that doesn’t apply to all clubs. I went to Cacoon yesterday and guys there raise their hands up like as if a gun’s pointing their way. I guess there were too many molest cases there haha). and what happened to me earlier this month was a caucasian guy whose THING raised up to where I could feel it. he was cute no doubt and could speak Korean pretty well. but definitely horny. I ran away right away and just chilled at my seat after that. which later a group of Jap/Korean gangster looking guys came to the table in a VERY aggressive way. straight putting their hands on our shoulders and sat realllly close to us. which I then left right away. >_>”.
also, if you walk around in Hongdae (the club workers lost our bags the night before so we had to go there in the morn at 7 fml) in the Morning, you’d find guys who aren’t drunk anymore come chasing you around asking you to have a drink with them (like wth. seriously? 7 in the morning?). my experience earlier was 2 guys in a nice car just stopped in the middle of the road, wind down their window and said “you look very familiar. did I meet you yesterday?” very corny pick up line. can’t believe they still use it. but they were hot U_U. but never ever let their handsomeness fool you. it’s probably just their plastic surgeon that’s good. just be straight forward and say “gwenchanayo” (it’s okay) and walk away. I seriously wonder if any girls would fall for it though. but there must be since they kept doing it (my friend told me these stories since years ago) and as you walk along Hongdae you’d get EVEN MORE guys approaching you asking you if you would like to have a drink with them. I am not saying this because I think I am oh so beautiful and there are a bunch of guys flocking around me. I have heard that even the huger girls get these a lot. my friend described the huger girls like girls that nobody would want to date in Malaysia based on appearance. the conclusion is that, they will just approach ANY girl in my opinion.
and I am telling you these for you girls to be careful and so that you wouldn’t get some really bad experience here in Korea =).
as for making friends, the thing you MUST remember at ALL TIMES as a foreigner is that. in their brain, it’s already set that FOREIGNERS ARE EASY. so I just wish nobody would get any sort of traumatizing experience like me and do not think that “oh I love Kpop/Kdrama hence I must get a romantic Korean boyfriend”. because if it really happens, it’s one in a ten thousand.
also, guys approach girls OPENLY here. it doesn’t matter if they are hot or not. if you’re their style, they will approach you and try to get your number. normally, you can just give them a fake one. but they since are very persuasive and persistent sometimes you might give up to them. but my advice is, DON’T. since you don’t know them anyway, let them get hurt and just step on their ego if you have to. for your own safely. it might sound like a fun experience but I am telling you, hearing about is it more than enough. I have heard many stories about how even housemates can keep bugging and stalking a person. it’s sad.
truthfully, I just wanted more Korean friends because my classmates who have a lot of Korean friends improve REALLY FAST. but it’s probably better to have a friend introduce them to you than to blindly look for one. it didn’t turn out that well for me but at least I quit. it’s pretty disgusting I have to say. so girls, if you think Korea is a safe place for you to just hang around knowing new friends, think twice.
but I must say, there are also the nicer ones (and usually the less fashionable ones) which are very very nice. and what I have learnt from these nicer Koreans (they told me) are that if you avoid a guy’s touch it means you “want” more in a way like you’re “acting” shy. doesn’t apply for Malaysian girls like me but I’m in Korea so now it does matter. if you don’t like the person you have to tell him straight on the face with no mercy because it’s not a rude thing to do in Korea.
so this is my 2 cents for you about Korean guys =D. hope it helped.